After life starts returning to normal

After all the heartache, the deep sadness and initial grieving your life slowly returns to some form of normality, by this I simply mean you look at returning to work, ways to carry on living, in my case unfortunately I had to find a whole new life after splitting with my husband and moving out of the family home.

I won't lie and say it was easy or I took it on the shoulders, I just did what I could not to give up and break down. For the first time in my life I moved into a shared house (not what I pictured I'd be doing at 33yrs old). You have to start focusing on what you want from life, do you want some time alone? Do you want to look for someone to share life with? Make new memories with? With these questions comes a whole load more how do you meet someone new? I had been with my husband 8yrs everything had changed in terms of dating, it's a whole barrel of confusion and game playing from what I can work out, then more questions, if you do meet someone when do you tell them about the hell you have been through? Yes it's an awkward conversation but it's part of what make you who you are today.

At the end of the day only one person can answer these questions and that is you yourself, do what's right for you when it's right for you. Make yourself happy! Not an easy feat if like me you always put others happiness before your own.

Make some changes, personally I decided to change my eating, took up running and hoola hooping and I have felt so much better for it, it gives me time for me, just to empty my mind and think of nothing, it also give me a sense of accomplishment and the knowledge that after everything I've been through I could have easily given up (hell I very nearly did) but I'm still here, I'm fighting for myself, for winters memory and my other children and I always will.